"The idea is that there is a kind of memory in nature. Each kind of thing has a collective memory. So, take a squirrel living in New York now. That squirrel is being influenced by all past squirrels." Rupert Sheldrake.
In humans too, for better for worse, parents tend to pass on the parenting that they themselves received.
Patterns seem to be hardwired into our brains, and begin to be formed before we are even born. Sometimes we can unconsciously carry the feelings, symptoms, behaviours, of hardships of an earlier member of our family system as if they were our own.
Shared patterns of unhappiness are all around us. Depressed mother, depressed daughter...angry father, angry son...relationship difficulties of the parents mirrored by the children. The combinations are endless.
We can delude ourselves that we can make our lives go exactly to plan but our intentions are too often at odds with our actions. We desire good health but we overeat and don't exercise. We want a meaningful career but don't take the steps we need to take to achieve it. We want a loving relationship but distance ourselves as soon as someone tries to get close to us. We feel depressed but don't consider the deeper reasons why.
Typically people will consult a doctor and receive medication or therapy. Whilst in some cases these can be useful, they generally don't supply a complete solution. Identifying the origin of any traumas or behaviour traits in your family can help finally lay them to rest.
What else can you do? Researchers now are finding that our thoughts, inner images, and gene expression can be positively affected by meditation. When we meditate we can 'bulk up' the portions of our brains that produce happiness.
New experiences can also create new neural pathways. The more we practice something the more we train our brains to change.
So, if you feel like you are going round and round in circles and not getting anywhere start to think about the reasons why. What actions can you take to change your life? Identify the source of your problems then use meditation to rewire your brain.
“Why waste your final hours racing about your cage denying you're a squirrel?” - Ray Bradbury.
Have a listen to this 6 Phase Guided Meditation by Vishen Lakhiani. Practice it every date to get the full benefits.