Imagine you were made redundant from your job. Obviously you didn’t create the economic problems that led to this event, but you are in control of whether you react or respond to your situation.
When facing a challenge we face three possible choices:
- We can react by getting anxious, depressed or by just giving up.
- We can react by becoming angry or agitated, and venting our frustration on others, or we can hold it inside as anger.
- We can choose to respond and focus on what action we can take to create a positive answer.
There is a big difference between reacting and responding. Reacting is more of a ‘knee-jerk’ action, fuelled by emotions that immediately rise up from feelings about what happened.
Responding, however, occurs in the higher thinking centres of the brain, which then sends signals to the emotional brain so that it can take control of any resulting stress or fear.
Success in any aspect of our lives, including relational, depends on how we respond to challenges along the way.
Do you respond with solutions or do you just give up and accept what life throws your way?
If you learn to respond to what life throws at you, you are more likely to have happy relationships and get what you want.
Respond to your dreams, goals, and passions, by choosing to focus on what you want. Minor problems along the way will simply be solutions waiting to happen.
People who are reactive tend to focus on past failures, always looking for someone else to blame when things go wrong.